I would be lying if I told you I was not a wee bit nervous about adding three children to our family at once. I guess I just lied a little, because "wee bit" nervous is quite an understatement.
I am not naive, I know there will be many adjustments for our current family. We ventured out once and did a special needs adoption. Now we are adding to the mix a toddler and two older children all at once, and transracial and transcultural on top of that. I'm bracing myself for more mouths to feed, more laundry to do, more arguments to break up, more attitudes, more valuables broken, more dirt to sweep off the floor, more smudges on the windows. There will be more noise, more kids to get out the door, more clothes to buy. And I will probably grieve the loss of facebook and blogging for awhile!
(Then again, I see in my future more kisses and hugs, more snuggles, more laughter, more playmates, more character building, more built-in babysitters, more sibling ties, more cultural experiences.)
When I put myself in their shoes, I feel pretty overwhelmed, thinking of the big changes that will soon be happening to them. Do they want to be adopted? I am sure the answer is yes. But are they prepared for all the changes they will soon experience? I bet they feel just as unprepared as I do. They will have to learn new rules and boundaries, a new language, be immersed in a totally new culture, call complete strangers......white strangers...... Mom and Dad, learn the names and habits of their new...white brothers and sisters, learn to adapt to different kinds of foods. And oh, can you imagine how much they will grieve over the loss of the only place they ever knew as home?
My friend Heather reminded me how much easier Ava's adoption was than we thought it was going to be. I am praying that this will be the case now too.
But just in case, I ordered several books today on older child adoption, toddler adoption, parenting the hurt child, and even some children's books on adoption. I have so much reading material that I shouldn't even notice the wait (perhaps?).
By the way, I feel tremendously blessed to be doing adoptions at a time when there are so many valuable resources.....books, blogs, chats, yahoo groups. Seriously how did people used to do it? I have learned so much from you, my dear internet friends. Thank you.
I plan to spend some time on my knees these next few months asking the Lord to give us every bit of wisdom and grace we all need to
Thanks again for your support, blog friends, and thank you for keeping our family in your prayers.